List of questions to ask online dating

I tried dating a couple of guys only a few months after his death. I could have saved myself a lot of pain by waiting longer. Have You Regrown Your Shell? But I was still too wounded and vulnerable, making me needy. I needed companionship NOW, which meant I needed it too much. Plus, dating comes with rejection and criticism. I dated a couple guys who wanted me to change to meet their needs.

Far better to spend your time with friends who will buoy you up as you figure out who you are in this new world. The first year and a half, even two years, after my loss I was often exhausted. Part of it was bureaucracy and dealing with deferred maintenance, but part of it was having been through such a traumatic loss. I needed to spend what energies I did have taking care of myself.

I sleepwalked through much of it, too tired to enjoy the fast-paced sightseeing and being out of my comfort zone. Similarly, 14 months after his death, I found traveling to meet dates and figuring out new locales to be enervating. I lacked the energy to enjoy trying new experiences. Try some long days out with friends before attempting any lengthy or faraway dates. This is a hard one because you might not know until you try. I tried dating a nice Jewish yogi lawyer just like me four months after losing George.

But I was lost in my memories. I was fighting back tears on almost every date. Do You Even Want to Date? Well, get out there!

But we may be happier on our own. I hear from so many widowed folk who get plenty of love and companionship from friends and family. Yet the societal benchmark for recovery seems to be seeing someone new. Do You know What You Want? This last one is more for the benefit of your prospective beaus. Being a nice girl, I sought a stable guy to settle down with. But I really wanted to be on my own and meet different kinds of people for awhile.

I unnecessarily confused a few serious guys who wanted exclusive relationships, One fellow wrote me that after he lost his wife, he wanted a friend with benefits only. That was his emotional bandwidth. Another gentleman said he wants a girlfriend, but still wants to live separately.

It helps to have a goal before shopping in the human mall of online dating. So, what helped you to decide whether or not you were ready to date again after being widowed? How did you reach your decision? Blogging has shown me older daters are a cynical lot.

Success stories and words of wisdom help us all.


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